NBC DISCIPLE’S LIFESTYLE FOR CHILDREN FOR SEPTEMBER 12, 2021 : TOPIC – ANGER.
NBC DISCIPLE’S LIFESTYLE FOR CHILDREN
WEEK 2: SUNDAY, 12TH SEPTEMBER, 2021.
James 1:19, Proverbs 29:11, 15:1.
Primary Learning Outcome: Learners will understand the eflects of anger on their health and how lo overcome it.
Indicators: Preschoolers will indicate this by:
• Saying what anger means.
• Explaining how it can affect their lives.
• Praying to God to help them focus on Him rather than things that make them angry.
• Making a commitment to avoid things and people that make them angry.
While other children will indicate this by:
• Stating the meaning of anger.
• Saying three things that can trigger anger.
• Mentioning three effects of anger.
• Explaining how they can overcome anger.
• Writing a prayer of commitment to God to stay away from anger.
Teaching Method(s): Case Study and Lecture.
Entrance Activity: Samson is the first born of his parents; he has two siblings Peter and Esther. Samson has been known for his anger. He gets angry at every little thing. One day, after the family dinner, His mother asked him to clear the table and wash the dishes. Samson became angry because he felt the work was too much for him. As he was packing the dishes in anger, he ran into a stool and all the dishes fell to the ground. Not only did he break all the dishes, he also sustained injury from the broken dishes. Samson was angry because of what he was asked to do and as a result he wasted the lamily’s resources and also caused himself pain. What will you say about Samson’s attitude? When you feel cheated how do you respond?(Allow the children to respond).
Introduction: Responding to provoking situations requires wisdom. When we respond in anger, we stand to lose more things than when we respond with patience. Anger can sometimes make us do the unimaginable. Anger has caused a lot of people pain and loss. Sometimes, it leaves a permanent scar and this will only lead to regret. Let us be attentive as we go into the teaching.
Preschoolers’ Section (Ages 2-5years)
Be Careful of Anger
Anger is the strong emotion that you feel when you think that someone has behaved in an unfair, cruel, or unacceptable way. Everyone experiences anger, even children as young as three or four months old do. However, as you grow and develop, you must learn how to deal with some of the unpleasant things of everyday life. You must also learn how to express anger in acceptable ways. Whether your anger is positive or negative depends on how effectively it is managed and whether it can be directed towards positive goals. Being angry from time to time can easily lead to sadness and make one feel sick or even become sick.
You must learn how to handle yourself when you are angry by: (1) Talking to God about the thing or person that is making you angry. (2) Moving away from things or people that get you angry, (3) Talking to someone about those things or people getting angry. When you consciously take steps to calm your anger down, you will gradually learn how to live above anger. Are there situations that are making you angry right now? Close your eyes and talk to God about it. Tell Him to help you overcome anger in your heart and help you to focus on Him. (Lead preschoolers into prayer).
1. What is anger?
2. State two things anger can lead to.
3. From the board, write in your note book five times your decision to stay away from anger and read loud (Teacher should write the decision on the board for preschoolers to copy).
Other Children’s Section (Ages 6-9and 10-12years)
A. Meaning of Anger
Anger is an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat. It is a strong feeling of displeasure that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened. Anger is a feeling of displeasure resulting from injury, mistreatment, opposition, etc., and usually showing itself in a desire to fight back at the supposed cause of this feeling, Feeling angry involves changes within the body and also in thinking. Muscles get tense and there is a burst of energy as the heart speeds up, blood pressure rises and breathing becomes faster. Thoughts also play a big part in anger.
Angry thinking can trigger angry feelings and make anger last longer, so learning to understand and change thinking patterns is very important for managing anger. With help from adults, you can develop skills for recognizing and changing angry thinking.
Anger is a normal human emotion, but when it gets out of control it can become destructive, leading to serious problems in personal relationship. It can undermine a person’s quality of life. Of course, anger can also be harmful to our relationships, studies and our bodies in the long run. When you lack skills for managing anger it can lead to aggressive behaviour. Usually, it is the aggressive action that follows anger that makes it a concern. Learning to manage anger involves developing social and emotional skills for calming down and having ways to express angry feelings assertively. This means learning to use words rather than aggressive actions to communicate feelings. Anger can be a useful emotion. People get angry about injustice and this has led to lots of good things happening in the world. If you can get rid of angry feelings without hurting yourself or others, then you can learn to use your anger and not let it use you.
B. Causes of Anger
Different kinds of situations can lead to angry feelings in children. Some of the most common situations are listed below:
1. Not being allowed to have something you want.
2. Having someone take your things.
3. Being hit, kicked, punched, etc.
4. Having others (children or adults) speak to you aggressively.
5. Being required or forced to do something you don’t want to.
6. Being rejected by other children.
7. Feeling unsafe and uncared for.
C. Effects of Anger
1. Anger hurts your physical health: Anger can be detrimental to health. Constantly operating at high levels of stress and anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, insomnia, high blood pressure, etc. Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy, and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
2. Anger hurts your academics: A lot of people have failed in examination because they were angry before or during the examination. When you allow anger to erode you before an examination, you are likely to lose focus during preparation and it might affect your assimilation rate. Also, getting angry during examination might make you miss out important information or misinterpret questions. It may also reflect in the way you prepare and answer questions in the examination.
3. Anger hurts your relationships with others: It causes lasting scars for the people you love most and gets in the way of friendships and work relationships. Explosive anger makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable around you and is especially damaging to children.
4. Anger affects sense of reasoning and judgment: Intense anger feelings very often cloud judgment and lead to impulsive or aggressive behaviour rather than thoughtful actions. Anger makes you see things and judge situation only from the angle that hurts you. It will not allow you to have a balanced view of the situation at hand and this might affect the way we judge issues and the outcome.
5. Roadblock: Anger has made some people miss opportunities that God has planned to use to help them. Anger can be a great road block to God’s plan for His children. Moses is a good example here. He lost his opportunity to enter the Promised Land because he could not control his anger. Numbers 20:12 (Lead children to read this passage).
6. Anger Steals Peace: When we are constantly angry, our life becomes centred on gloom. Anger steals our peace and replaces it with worries and anxiety.
D. How to Overcome Anger:
1. Acknowledge and identify the cause of your anger: Getting to understand why you are angry can help you get hold of the situation before it gets out of hand. When you find the anger emotion rising in you, take a moment to think of the reason. Once you can identify the cause of the anger, dealing with it becomes easy.
2. Talk to God: Some people have serious anger issues. They get angry sometimes for no reason. If you are someone like this take time every morning to ask God for the grace not to get angry. When you pray constantly concerning a matter your mind is constantly tuned to doing the right thing.
3. Choose to control your emotions: Learn to control your emotion under every circumstance. You sometimes cannot determine people’s actions towards you, but you can definitely choose how you will react to them. Some people will naturally do things that will make you angry, but you must decide to stay away from anger irrespective of people’s action.
4. Think of the consequence: Every action motivated by anger has a consequence. Sometimes these consequences are irreversible and it may lead to regret. If you do not want to do things you will regret later, always take time to think through before you respond in anger. Sometimes, responding in anger can turn your right to wrong.
5. Share your feelings with someone: Talking to someone about your anger can actually help you view the situation from another angle that will make it less irritating. Talk to someone godly that can also pray with you when you are angry.
Conclusion: Having people that will offend us is inevitable. And responding in anger every time to everyone will only lead to a lot of negative effects on us. It will also end up destroying our relationships with people. Therefore, we all need to choose to forgive everyone even before they offend us so we can build healthy and lasting relationships with people. This may not be easy but with the help of God we can stand out in our approach to anger.
Think and Decide: Do you always make the right judgment when you are angry? Do you think anger is the only way to respond to mistreatment? Decide to respond positively’ in every circumstance.
Talk to God: Based on your answer to the above question, talk to God in prayer (lead children to pray for themselves).