RCCG YAYA Sunday School Teacher Manual For May 8, 2022 Lesson 36: Topic -“Dating”: The Christian Perspective

RCCG YAYA Sunday School Teacher Manual For May 8, 2022 Lesson 36: Topic -“Dating”: The Christian Perspective

 

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Topic – “Dating”: The Christian Perspective

OPENING PRAYER: Father, help me to make you my standard.

MEMORY VERSE: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” – Hebrews 13:4

BIBLE PASSAGE: Genesis 29:16-20 (KJV)

16 And Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel.

17 Leah was tender eyed; but Rachel was beautiful and well favoured.

18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.

19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.

20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.

INTRODUCTION: The world today put so much pressure on youths when it comes to what they prefer to call dating. The world tells us to date now and dates often and date a lot of different people so we do not ‘miss out’ on any of life’s experiences. God has a difference plan for His sons and daughters. He has a higher standard for us too, one which we, as Christ followers, should strive to reach even if it goes against the world’s standards and expectations. God wants to lead us into a proper courtship.

TEXT REVIEW: GENESIS 29:16-20.
In this passage,

A. Laban had two daughters ………… and ……………V16.

B. Leah’s eyes…………………V17.

C. Jacob: i. …………………….V18a.
ii. …………………………..V18b.

D. Laban………………….V19.

E. Jacob served laban for……….V20a.

F. The years seemed like a few days because………………V20b.

LESSON OUTLINE

  1. DESCRIPTION AND IMPLICATION
  2. FULFILMENT IN CHRIST FIRST

1. DESCRIPTION AND IMPLICATION

Teacher should ask the class to discuss the meaning of dating among the youths and guide the class through the following.

A. The meaning of dating.

i. Dating is a form of romantic relationship typically between two individuals of the opposite sex with the aim of assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse.

ii. Literally, it means going out with someone of the opposite sex.

iii. Dating and courtship are two methods of beginning a relationship with the opposite sex (Genesis 29:18-20). It should be noted that the result of this may lead to friendship, intimate relationship (courtship), marriage or no relationship.

B. While there are non-Christians who go into relationship with the intention of having a series of intimate sexual relationship, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason (Romans 12:2; 1Corinthians 6:18-20).

C. Biblical standpoint: While we may not be able to completely close our eyes to this societal trend, Christian youths should see dating as:

i. A little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.

ii. Dating should be a time when a Christian finds out if he or her potential partner is also a genuine believer in Christ before making a commitment of a relationship (courtship) that could lead to marriage.

iii. During this time, there should be no sexual relation and closeness that could trigger emotions, as this is something that should wait until marriage (Hebrews 13:4).

iv. The Christian dating must have boundaries in place and be committed to not crossing them. Dating (as well as marriage) should not be between a believer and a non-believer (2Corinthians 6:14-15).

CLASS ACTIVITY 1
Students should discuss why youths defile themselves in the process of dating.

2. FULFILMENT IN CHRIST FIRST

Teacher should allow youthto discuss why finding fulfillment in Christ is important.
Importance of finding fulfillment in Christ.

i. In order to be in a God-centre romantic relationship in some years to come, you must first find your personal fulfillment in Christ.

ii. The stronger your faith in God, the better you will be able to love another person.

iii. God is a jealous God (Exodus 34:14) and until you have a relationship with God that is above everything and anyone else, you will likely have someone who is more important to you than God.

iv. It is vital that God is first in your life (Matthew 22:37-39).

v. He needs to be the one you run to when you are lonely, bored, sad, etc. No friend (especially the opposite sex) can always be there for you like God can.

vi. People are never meant to take God’s place in our lives and heart.

vii. God has to be everything to you prior to getting into a God-honouring relationship (with marriage in view).

viii. As you wait patiently on God and diligently doing His will, He will graciously give you the best match as a spouse.

CLASS ACTIVITY 2
Students should discuss how a youth can find fulfillment in Christ.

SUMMARY
While it is not out of place for a Christian to date, it is important to beware of some ungodly underlying factors in dating and seeking fulfillment in Christ first.

CONCLUSION
It is important that a believer finds fulfillment in Christ first before entrusting his/her life into the hands of the opposite sex.

CLOSING PRAYER
Father, help me to find fulfillment in you first.

ASSIGNMENT
Mention five (5) of dangers of dating from the world’s perspective.

SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN

  1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,

    O how I love Thee well,

    I am happy, it makes me glad

    To rejoice at Thy birth.

  2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,

    Thy friend friendship suits me well,

    Both young and will sing Thy song,

    We long for Sunday School.

  3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,

    Christ was Thy first teacher,

    The Holy Spirit, great teacher,

    Does manifest in thee.

  4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,

    This testimony is sure,

    That God, the Father Almighty,

    Poured His blessing on Thee

  5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,

    Though the sun be so bright,

    Or if the clouds be black with rain,

    I’ll be in Sunday School.

  6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day

    I rejoice to see Thee,

    Will thou pass over me today?

    Without my being blest?

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