RCCG Sunday School TEACHER’s Manual For January 13, 2019 , Lesson 20 Topic – Love Dynamics in Marriage
TOPIC: Love Dynamics in Marriage
OPENING PRAYER: Father, let true love continue in every home.
MEMORY VERSE: “By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.” – Proverbs 25:15
BIBLE PASSAGE: Genesis 2:18-25 KJV
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed
Many marriages ate needlessly failing because the marriage partners lack the knowledge of relationship dynamics. Hosea 4:6. Most couples, sadly to say are ignorant on purpose. In this study, we will be looking at the scriptural principles and the love language that must characterize our marital relationships.
TEXT REVIEW: GENESIS 2:18-25 “DIVINE SURGICAL OPERATION”
The mystery of togetherness in marriage is divine. This is the explained in the light of the following references:
i. God started it ” And God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. Gen.2:18.
ii. God recognized it “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof”. Gen.2:21.
iii. God performed the surgery and reconstructed the rib.”And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman”. Gen.2:22.
iv. God translated the bone to bones and flesh. Gen. 2:23a
v. The only assignment which Adam did in the process was to label the new creation by naming it and to accept it. “And Adam said…..,she shall be called a woman….shall cleave to his wife”. Gen.2:23-24.
vi. Both the man and the woman began to cohabit ( unity). They clave(unity). They were not ashamed (unity). Gen.2:24-25.
- LESSON OUTLINE 1: SCRIPTURAL PRINCIPLES GUIDING MARRIAGE
- LESSON OUTLINE 2: UNDERSTANDING THE “LOVE LANGUAGES”
LESSON OUTLINE 1: SCRIPTURAL PRINCIPLES GUIDING MARRIAGE
Couples should understand the following scriptural principles:
i. That the couple(male & female)is the image of God. Gen.1:27.
ii. That the differences in male and female are God-designed and therefore should be accepted as complimentary and not as competitive. Gen.2:18.
iii. That marriage is a divine institution and that it is a relationship of companionship. Gen.2:21-25; Matt.19: 5.
iv. That the marriage was design designed by God to be a permanent, mutual and covenant relationship. Matt. 19:6
v. That God’s intent is for marriage to be an inestimable source of joy and fulfillment.
vi. That through marriage, God intends to bring redemption to human race. Gen. 3:15; 22:18.
vii. That marital relationship provides the vehicle for the incarnation of the Saviour, Jesus Christ. Ephemeral. 5:31-32.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Class to discuss why many marriages do not follow or are not based on the above-mentioned principles.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: UNDERSTANDING THE “LOVE LANGUAGES”
For a lasting marriage, couple should understand and apply the following five(5) love languages frequently:
i. Quality Time Together: Spending time with each other and talking without interruptions, going out and about, having fun together, celebrating birthdays and wedding anniversaries, etc. let courtship experience continue. Gen.26:8.
ii. Acts of Service: Do things you know your spouse would like you do. For example cooking meals, helping each other especially in household chores, etc. Eccl.4:9.
iii. Exchange of Gift: Express your love for each other through giving/receiving of gifts no matter how small. 1 Sam.1:5; Prov.17:8.
iv. Words of Affirmation: Couples must be consistent in saying I love you, I am sorry, Thank you, you look nice in that dress etc. to each other. Song of Solomon 1:15; 4:1,7.
v. Physical Touching: This is a way of communicating emotional love, e.g. holding hands, kissing, pecking, embracing, patting, necking, nibbling, sitting close to each other etc. Gen. 26:8; Song of Solomon 1:2.
SUMMARY: Biblical marital principles and ‘love language’ strengthened the marital relationship.
CONCLUSION: Couples should discover and express to each other what ‘their’ primary love language is and not just speak, but do to them what ‘your’ love language is.
i. What is love language?
ii. What are the biblical based marital principles?
ii. What are the biblical based marital principles?
CLOSING PRAYER: Father, help couples to imbibe the biblical principles and love languages in Jesus’ name.
ASSIGNMENT: Find out five (5) major differences between the scripture-based marital principles and the world/carnal-based marital principle.