RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL TEACHER’S MANUAL FOR YOUNG ADULTS AND YOUTHS (YAYA), April 18, 2021 : Topic – BEFORE YOU SAY ‘I DO’

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MAIDEN SPECIAL EDITION FOR YOUNG ADULTS AND YOUTHS (YAYA)

SUNDAY 18TH OF APRIL, 2021

LESSON THIRTY THREE (33)

TOPIC: BEFORE YOU SAY ‘I DO’

RCCG Sunday School HYMN

O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.
O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?

OPENING PRAYER: Father, please guide me through the path to marriage.

BIBLE PASSAGE: Genesis 29:11-20

11 And Jacob kissed Rachel, and lifted up his voice, and wept.

12 And Jacob told Rachel that he was her father’s brother, and that he was Rebekah’s son: and she ran and told her father.

13 And it came to pass, when Laban heard the tidings of Jacob his sister’s son, that he ran to meet him, and embraced him, and kissed him, and brought him to his house. And he told Laban all these things.

14 And Laban said to him, Surely thou art my bone and my flesh. And he abode with him the space of a month.

15 And Laban said unto Jacob, Because thou art my brother, shouldest thou therefore serve me for nought? tell me, what shall thy wages be?

16 And Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel.

17 Leah was tender eyed; but Rachel was beautiful and well favoured.

18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.

19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.

20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.

MEMORY VERSE: “Test all things; hold fast what is good.” 1Thessalonians.5:21 (NKJV).

LESSON INTRODUCTION: The foundation of a godly marriage must be properly laid on sound moral and biblical principles. Before the exchange of vows, where the Christian brother and sister will say ‘I do’, they should have passed through the phase of courtship and ensure that all things are done decently and in order (1 Cor.14:40; Amos 3:3) also watch out for some ‘red flags’ before saying ‘I do’.

TEXT REVIEW: Genesis 29:11-20. In this passage:

A. Jacob met Rachael, Laban’s daughter and did the following:
i. He greeted Rachael with a kiss (according to their custom) -v11.
ii. He introduced himself to Rachel.-v12.
B. Laban heard about the arrival of Jacob and:
i. Laban embraced and kissed Jacob and…. vs13
ii. ……………………………………………………… v14.
iii. …………………………………………………….. v15

A. Laban had two daughters and……….. v16-17.
B. Jacob waited for …………………………… v18
C. Jacob got ……………………………………… v19
D. Jacob served Laban and courted Rachel faithfully because………………………………. v20.

LESSON OUTLINES

LESSON OUTLINE 1: THE IMPORTANCE OF COURTSHIP: Secluded and tempting place
(2 Cor
2:11; 1 Thess.5:22).
A. Discussion should cover their dreams, visions, purpose for living, plan, fears, health status/history and past relationships (if any).
B. Intending couples should endeavour to discover each other’s strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, differences (upbringing/orientation, cultural background), etc. through observation and by asking questions.
C. Intending couples should be open and sincere with each other in all aspects of their dealings (financial status, source of income, etc.).
D. There should be no pretense or deception (stage management of character).
E. It is also expedient that Intending couples undertake marriage counseling lessons together during courtship (Proverbs 11:14).

CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Discuss the dangers in ‘dating’ and the reasons Christian youths should avoid it.

LESSON OUTLINE 2: RED FLAGS TO WATCH OUT FOR

Teacher should explain to the class that ‘red flags’ are danger signs connote ‘no go areas’. He should then guide the discussion as follows:
A. There are a number of “red flags” to watch out for before entering a permanent marriage relationship.

B. Unfortunately, these indicators may not be visible until after the wedding takes place, since some Christians are skilled at hiding their true natures or change with circumstances.

C. However, a short list of things to look out for includes irrational jealousy, deception, the strive to be in control (dominate the other partner), physical or emotional abuse/violence, a quick (hot) temper, cruelty towards adherence to unscriptural traditional values, attempts to isolate the other person from his or her friends and family, a show of dislike for would-be in-laws, defiance to spiritual matters, drug or alcohol abuse, smoking, disrespect for boundaries, privacy/personal space or low moral values.

D. If you see any of these warning signs or other strange behaviours in person you are entering a marriage relationship with, please pray and seek
advice from your spiritual leader or marriage counsellor before you say ‘I DO’. (Mk.14:38; Prov.15:22; 19:20).

E. Marriage should not be viewed as a ‘do or die’ affair. You have a destiny to fulfil (Jer 29:11). You may consider the saying that a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage’ and make a wise/informed decision. (Eccl.10:10; 1 Cor.7:15b).

CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Share with the class some strange behaviours you noticed in your intending partner (if you are engaged) and what you are doing or have done about it.

SUMMARY: It is important that Christian youths observe courtship (not dating) in a godly manner and watch out for ‘red flags’ before taking the vow of ‘I do’.

CONCLUSION: Watch and pray before you say “I DO”

EVALUATION: Teacher should ask the students to mention some of the red flags to watch out for before you say ‘I do’.

CLOSING PRAYER: Father, please help me through my courtship period and make my marriage heaven on earth.

ASSIGNMENT: Mention five of the issues that a Christian youth should not compromise or overlook while preparing for marriage.

RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL

MAIDEN SPECIAL EDITION FOR YOUNG ADULTS AND YOUTHS (YAYA)
SUNDAY 18TH OF APRIL, 2021
LESSON THIRTY THREE (33)
TOPIC: BEFORE YOU SAY ‘I DO’

MEMORY VERSE: “Test all things; hold fast what is good.” 1Thessalonians.5:21 (NKJV).

BIBLE PASSAGE: Genesis 29:11-20